Addictive Self Sharing? or...
Genuine listening in a world addicted to self talk and criticism: A balm for the heart in healing
Do you listen?
Well?
Completely?
Without attachment?
Genuinely without regard for self or your clinical impression?
D’you stop the conversation in your mind as someone else’s voice has the center space?
D’you offer tangible personal stories as support for the other in an un-co-opting manner?
How much is too much sharing? How do you know when it is okay to share your story of relevance and germaine to their story and when not?
Is there awareness of how Ego shows up in conversation…
Stops others mid sentence, or thought,
sabotage by hijacking the conversation,
tone of voice,
negative non verbal traits like shutter’d down store front windows? No eye contact, or open postures facing directly at your patient/client
Sarcasm?
It is another addiction isn’t it really.
We criticize and judge habitually ourselves and the world about us in the past, present and future tense.
We cannot pretend to believe because we offer advice everyday in many ways that it is provision for everyone.
Imagine our patients chatter.
Listening with this intention around others has been rather maddening for me as I have become aware of my own addiction here.
As a habit is a learned experience transferred from the mind into the bodyas an unconscious act so can we unlearn it over time and with much consideration to make it more conscious and make corrective course.
When we do we feel lighter and bring more joyousness into life.
On Practice
Consider being non judge-mental for 5 minutes
Grow it as it is being tamed.
Rewind and erase the judgmental experience and make amends and move on. You will be saying this a lot in the beginning.
Blessings and Namaste,
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5 mins be FULLY attentive can be more difficult than one thinks. Challenge accepted