What Does Fear Have to do With Persistent Pain
What Does Fear Have to do With Persistent Pain
The Father-Mother Emotions of Humans and the Key to Healing Fully with Any Condition
December 2023
A major underlying premise of Persistent Pain is Fear…
It lies most often in our deep unconscious.
Meaning, that without conscious thought, our world gives us cues and we respond reflexively.
It is a habit formed into the body state.
It is called re-acting.
For we are acting through memorization of the lines of our perceived life reality. It is automatic and conditioned.
Much of the addiction to pain and for any other addiction that is ruinous is fear based programming. I believe that our social conditioning and the milieu to which we imbibe reflects the way in which we live in the world.
Fear and Love are the two mother-father emotions, Yin-Yang dual optimizer and maps to harmony.
The overabundance of either creates disharmony and they feed the secondary emotions and feelings of our lives. They create joy-misery, happiness-sorrow, kindness-hatred, compassion-contempt, generosity-greediness, and gratitude-thanklessness.
It is the dark and light.
The high and low.
The warm to the cold.
The front to the back and high to the low.
When only Love is present
there is no room for Fear and its disciples.
When we relinquish the fear of:
Death we move into the Great act of Total Freedom. There is little need to gather anymore knowledge to prove one self. When we do gather substance it is to better understand another and their journey.
When we relinquish the fear of:
Failure we act in great Confidence. When this threshold is crossed failure means mistakes which leads us to future success. We begin to uncover the genius that has always been there in us as we listen to our intuitive voice. “Trust.” The inner voice says, “Trust.”
When we relinquish the fear of:
Others we act with Courage. I no longer need to “go along to get along.” I am willing to stand a part from the consensus if it does not resonate with my understanding, my need for safety and security. It is the self reliance that says, “I am in command.” I will decide with a wider aperture, I am decisive and unfettered.
When we relinquish the fear of:
Showing Ourselves unadorned and naked to the world we act through Vulnerability. This says that I can walk naked and transparent without a will of egos: Without a need to be ashamed of my shape, my color, my size, my unique physical offerings to this world. I relish the love of others who face the world by reflecting the spirit and souls found in this nakedness. Being un-adorned in all the slices of humanity presents us with a mirror inside.
We judge less ourselves and therefore others.
“I See Beauty Everywhere.”
My belief is that to heal fully we must return to the roots of our “matter” to understand the much larger invisible portion that is the universal Us:
That Us that has always known.
This ask is to delve into some reflection in the metaphysical and existential realm toward the root of our true nature. It is this notion of reflection, inner eye’d sensibility and an acutely sensitive up-tuning of our extra sensory powers. We find that our greatest ally becomes our intuitive ability.
Wisdom is the byproduct.
Wisdom was born through failure after failure in practice. We hone these edges and soften the inner voice of criticism and we are able to ease our way into the necessary conversations with our patients, with ourselves.
It is up to us to do our own deep dive into the dark, shadowy interiority of our life.
“One thousand to learn, ten thousand to refine”
With rehearsal, repetition and enduring support of loving resources will we not only return to the root, we will flourish and grow in an immeasurable manner.
Life will then be understood as limitless.
When we face our own physical injuries as practitioners, the consequences of these injuries become our true educator to nuances in the subtle soft arranging in our protoplasmic architecture. We are aptly able to refine the edges of selection, pacing, intensity, rest, reps and inquiry: Does this feel like healthy discomfort?
It is the summation of our life experiences in Movement Practices-Arts large and small which are worn from the inside out and have acted as guard rails for optimal health.
It is a daily and attentive holistic practice.
The sum total of our experiences give a beautiful, if not sometimes tragic understanding of the structure to how one metabolizes and transforms pain in life to knowledge and resilience.
It is bound in our license to practice.
Whats in a Pearl
Consider Pain body mapping theories.
Look up Erik Erikson’s1 stages of psycho social development and Louise Hay’s affirmations2 for healing as primers.
Begin to utilize this in your conversation with the patient as in your witnessing of their story as you get to know them and build trust to investigate whether there is a theme emerging in a root that needs nourishing and understanding.
A Common Example:
Dx: Chronic Cervical-Thoracic Strain with limited mobility
PainBody Dx: Challenged to see both sides of an argument. Frozen in their life view of possibility. Difficulty in making choices on life matters.
TCM Dx: Liver Qi Stagnation
The decipher: Unwilling to let go of their side of a story, Speaks in tones of self-negation of themselves and others. You may hear them reference the word “No” as a primer for starting an answer. “No, don’t do it that way.” “No, I agree with you.” “No, you are wrong. Liver Sighs are readily a common feature with these patients. This exasperated breath out says decisions cannot be acted upon. I am stuck. I am frustrated.”
Practitioner may say:
“Ted, It seems when we talk about your boss that you neck pain gets worse and you cannot move your head to the right. It sounds as if you are frustrated”
“Is that accurate?”
“Would you be willing to tell me more about that?”
Lean into the process and the unfolding in their journey. The days will go easier with less effort in each next encounter.
It is a “Fantastic Voyage”
Lastly, in Leading with Love and Compassion for another’s story your expert and loving guidance will create a portal where the patient/client may hear for the first time the story they have been wanting to release to the world.
It is a reverential experience in healing
Blessings and Namaste,
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On Erik Erikson: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2791471/
On Louise Hay: https://www.louisehay.com/